Do I Need To Lose Weight? Women, Weight Loss and Skinny America

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American culture is obsessed with women being skinny; almost every Hollywood actress is super thin. So why should you diet or exercise? Simply to lose weight and to become thin like the girls on TV?

Should You Lose Weight?
There are so many reasons to exercise and eat right other than to get down to your desired dress size. If you are healthy, eat well and exercise regularly, then likely you are maintaining a good weight, regardless of what any book or chart may say. This may mean you are size 16 or size 2. Your weight depends on many factors such as genetics, metabolism, medical issues, activity level, exercise history, muscle mass, and eating habits. You cannot control how God made you, so it is better to accept your body than to fight against it. Before you start a diet, check your motives because you may not even need to lose weight. If you are overweight, simply focus on improving your health through good eating and lots of exercise in order to jump start your weight loss.

How Do Naturally Thin Women Eat?
I rarely see thin people eating salads at McDonald's. The super-thin people I have known eat what they want. They do not overeat; instead, they may forget to eat when they get busy. But when they are hungry, they enjoy a wide variety of tasty foods that may be full of fat, calories and sugar. They do not necessarily exercise, so how do they stay so tiny? Probably everyone in their family is "small-boned." I have known many super-skinny women who are not healthy at all. So don't confuse being healthy with being thin. One thing everyone can learn from naturally super-tiny folks is that they rarely overeat.

Eating Should Be Fun!
My kids love lollipops and ice cream cones simply because they are fun to eat. I don't give them junk food all the time, but if they eat a healthy meal, I allow them a fun dessert sometimes. Moms, please don't go out for ice cream and just watch your kids eat their chocolate cones with sprinkles. Join in with the fun! That does NOT mean to order a large, extra-large or double-dipped cone with 5 toppings. Just order something small that you really love and savor every bite!

Exercise More To Eat More
If you exercise a lot, your appetite will increase. If you truly love to eat and cannot decrease your food volume to lose weight, try exercising more. This will help to increase your metabolism and, of course, burn calories. Another benefit is that exercising will motivate you to eat better, so you may end up replacing your french fries and cookies with blueberries and protein shakes.

What Makes You Beautiful?
First, beauty comes from within, so spend some time today exercising your heart, mind and spirit. The Bible says that beauty is shown by a gentle and quiet spirit. Second, every woman has equal value regardless of how she looks. Third, being thin will not take away all your insecurities. Even the most attractive super models are self-conscious about certain things and may not even like how they look. A lot of girls want to be pretty in order to attract a boyfriend, but remember that being in a relationship does not increase your worth.

Food Addiction
It is interesting that obesity has been increasing throughout this skinnifying of American culture. I believe obesity is so prevalent because of food addiction and sedentary lifestyle. I recently heard: "Anything you cannot live without is an addiction." So if you think you are not addicted to your late night binge, try giving it up for 7 nights.

Weight in Other Cultures
Not every culture has skinny women all over their media. For example, in Latin America, female stars are generally very curvy. Some cultures even revere large women. Remember that each culture's view of beauty changes over time. Being skinny or tan or having a certain hair color may be in fashion now but not 20 years from now.

Overcoming Skinny American Culture
If you feel caught up in wanting to look like a model, spend less time reading magazines and watching TV. The media has more effect on your mind than you may realize. Focus on becoming healthier instead of thinner. Learn to enjoy food but within logical limits. It may sound like an impossible task for most women, but try to accept your body. Then maybe you won't put so much pressure on yourself or those around you.

Willpower, Exercise Priority and Why Dieting Does Not Work

Willpower
When you are trying to lose weight, it will be impossible unless you learn to demonstrate willpower in regards to food. You can make it easier on yourself by not having your favorite snack foods in the house, but at some point the food will stand before you, and you will have a choice. Indulge or have the willpower to say no? Think about what you do on January 2 when you see a plate of brownies in the break room. "No, thanks--my New Year's resolution is to lose 10 pounds." It is easy in January because you are motivated, you just set a goal, and everyone is doing it. But what about the rest of the year, long after your co-workers have given up? Saying no to food means that you have control over your mind and body. You can choose to say no, even though you may have never done so before. And depending on your weight loss goals and eating habits, you may need to say no forever! Having the willpower to avoid overeating will become a habit if you do it consistently, so try it daily for 30 days.

Making Exercise a Priority
If you have tried multiple diets over the years but never keep the weight off, you may simply need to stick to one program long-term and add in more EXERCISE! Exercise must become a top priority on your daily to-do list. If not, it will easily get pushed aside, and you will not do it enough to help achieve and maintain your weight loss. So how do you make exercising a priority consistently? Build it into your daily routine; do it at the same time every day. Don't give yourself the option of skipping. What are the activities that you do every day? How can you modify your busy life in order to add something for your own health? Try adding exercise to one of your other usual activities, such as watching TV (on the treadmill) or playing with your kids (taking them for a walk).

Exercise Specifics
Exercise long enough (>30-40 minutes) and hard enough (you should be sweating and breathing moderately hard)! Challenge yourself by increasing your speed and intensity of cardio. Progressively increase your repetitions and/or weights for your strength training. If you are new to exercising, start at 15-20 minutes of mild-moderate exercise, then increase in 5-minute increments. As your body adjusts, you will be able to work out for longer and at a faster pace. If you have the time, ideally try to increase your exercise to one hour per day, 6x/week. This should include both cardio and strength training. This is especially important for weight loss because it helps to burn calories, build muscle tone, and boost your metabolism!

Eating thin!
Lastly, think about the thin people you know. What are their eating and exercising habits? Many thin people may have genetically high metabolisms, but many also work at it! And in general, it is safe to say that they eat in moderate amounts and are likely pretty active individuals.